What Are Our Own Perseptions?

Authored By John Elliott aka Oaky Wood©2006

Yes exactly what are our own perceptions, all to often we allow our past to rule our today's, and govern what we will become tomorrow. We are told we are useless by our piers so we go through life believing in that concept. Never wanting to change through fear of ridicule or actual failure and the inevitable, "I told you so's" We can all aspire to whatever we wish, but yet we must cast away those threads of doubt haunting us from our past. Only you can control the power others have over you. Happiness does come from within, and being self aware, of being happy with what, and who you are, only then can you be the real you, only then will you achieve your goals.

One of the best ways to dispel these fears of failure is to look within yourself for the one thing you are really good at, be it looking after children or being a friend or a poet, you may be good at relating facts to others, a storyteller maybe. It could be a hobby, painting for instance or drawing, do you like cooking or baking, or even charitable pursuits. Even the smallest thing can be elevated. A sport or health and fitness, literally anything you are good at can help change the way you are, or the way yourself and others perceive you

My own parents told me I was nothing more than a miner's son, and should accept this fact, and not rock the boat by trying to be anything more than this. My education was basic state education where we were all taught to be miner's sons and carry on the tradition laid down by our forefather's or be happy prissy little housewives, prepared for nothing more than stay at home and raise a brood of kids.

Taking that one element you can then aspire to greater levels and create inner happiness and the self-esteem builds on the success you are then creating for yourself.

Everyone is good at one thing the trick is finding that one small thing you can build on. We often go through life never realizing what our one talent actually is and often it really does take a friend to point this out, so do listen when they say, "You're really good at this or that aren't you". My own, one thing, I was always good at was art, and yes all through my life my friends have always given my artwork praise. Oh! I wished I'd listened, for it was not until much later in life that I actually started to believe them. As an adult learner in the UK I went to college, my confidence grew as I found my many hidden talents, not just the one. Surrounded by creativity on all sides, praises for my efforts and the success's in the final exams, gave me the life skills I was missing for so long, so its never to late to change these negative ways and attitudes.

Once you yourself begin on the road to building success's, the pat's on the back the well done's all add to your inner state of well being. And success builds confidence and your inner happiness grows with it. Your past fears are then history and can only hurt you if you let them. I still have days of self doubt even today, and I slip into depressions, but never for too long as my inner confidence and overall well being brings me back to my senses and the realization that it is all in my own mind and nothing more.

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